Guestiquette: Honor vs. Pleasure

wedding-invitations-flowing-calligraphy-5680I was recently asked a question that I think a lot of people may have had confusion over. Recall, if you will, an invitation that you’ve received for a wedding or other formal event.  Chances are it opened with the line “request the honor of your presence” or “request the pleasure of your company” as part of the wording. Believe it or not these phrases actually have etiquette guidelines on when they can each be used and are not entirely interchangeable.

The phrase “…the honor of your presence…” is reserved for wedding ceremonies taking place in a house of worship, be it a church, temple, mosque, synagogue or another religious institution.

Meanwhile the phrase “…the pleasure of your company…” is used to invite guests to a wedding ceremony taking place anywhere else. Examples of this would include a country club, resort garden area, the beach, etc.

This rule does not take into consideration a religious ceremony, but rather the location. So if you have a Jewish ceremony, complete with a Chuppah, at a resort, you would still request the pleasure of your guests company.

If you want to stick with tradition in this area though, then each has an appropriate and specific use.

Is this etiquette rule breakable without being totally faux pas? I say, yes! Only the trained eye will notice that you used “…the honor of your presence…” to invite them to your beach front wedding. After all, God is everywhere and one could argue that the beach front is just as sacred as the Chapel. I personally believe that God is not limited to a building and that many things can be sacred, so I would have no problem using “the honor of your presence” to invite people to an outdoor wedding.

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The World’s Top 10 All-Inclusive Resorts

The Caves (Negril, Jamaica) courtesy of luxurytravelbible.com

Choosing an all-inclusive locale for your honeymoon or destination wedding plans is a super easy way to save time and hundreds at the bank.  It also ensures you get the utmost most bang for your buck – after all, all of the details are already taken care of.  All you have to do is show up.

Last week TripAdvisor announced their creme de la creme of all-inclusive resorts in the world and whether your preference is deep sea diving in the coral reef or sitting beach side to the tune of steel drums, there is something for everyone.

1. Iberostar Grand Hotel Paraiso (Playa Paraiso, Mexico)

2. Garonga Safari Camp (Makalali Private Game Reserve, South Africa)

3. Le Blanc Spa Resort (Cancun, Mexico)

4. Drowsy Water Ranch (Granby, Colorado)

5. Nukubati Private Island Great Sea Reef (Labasa, Fiji)

6. East Winds Inn (Gros Islet, St. Lucia)

7. Secrets Maroma Beach Riviera Cancun (Playa del Carmen, Mexico)

8. Ceylon Tea Trails (Hatton, Sri Lanka)

9. Iberostar Grand Bavaro Hotel (Punta Cana, Dominican Republic)

10. The Caves (Negril, Jamaica)

Happy travels!!