Event Reminder: 10/29 ‘I Do’ Bridal Networking Brunch

You Are Cordially InvitedThis is a quick reminder that Wedding Professionals (and those looking to enter into the wedding industry), Creative Entrepreneurs, and Brides/Nearlyweds have an open invitation to join us at the 1st installment of ‘I Do’ Bridal Brunch and Networking Event.

This is a FREE vendor networking event where we bring together bridal and creative professionals over coffee and light fare to connect, converse, and exchange ideas and it all takes place this Sunday, October 29 from 11am – 1pm at Rock n Joe Union (900 Green Lane, Union, NJ).

For more information and to confirm your registration. visit us on FaceBook.

See you Sunday!!!



SocialBFly About Town: Weddings for Heroes Bridal Showcase

Photo courtesy of weddingsforheroes.org

You probably noticed that no blogs were posted last week but I promise there’s a good reason for that – last week became unexpectedly BUSY!  The outcome? We’ve successfully participated in our first bridal showcase!!

I found out about an opportunity to participate in the Weddings for Heroes Military Wedding Charity event one week before it was scheduled to take place – which is great, right?  But considering this had NEVER been done before, the opportunity quickly became a race against time in an effort to pull it off.

And with a little help, we did!!

The event was held on March 28th in Red Bank, NJ at the Oyster Point Hotel.  The organization, Weddings for Heroes Corp, is a NJ charitable organization, benefiting our Military by providing dream weddings to Combat wounded military personnel, Combat Veterans and active duty military facing hardships or otherwise underprivileged at no cost to them.

Weddings For Heroes also offers resources and programs to Military couples coping with the effects of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder due to military service/ deployments.

Servicemen from all branches of the military, and their brides, attended the event learning more about the vendors and in hopes of being the couple lucky enough to win the wedding of their dreams.

And several of NJ’s fabulous wedding businesses were also participating – including some of my favorites like SZDesigns, Calligraphy by Allison, Hallak Bridal, and Cardbox Diva.

Thank you again to Weddings For Heroes for the opportunity to participate in their first bridal showcase.  Having grown up as a military brat to a father in the Army, their cause is one that is close to my heart and I’m excited about the opportunity to showcase in future showcases and donate our services to helping make bridal dreams come true for our troops. Here are some pictures from the evening…

The SocialBfly Booth

Ms. New Jersey stopped by the booth

Allison of Calligraphy by Allison...she's a SocialBFly Preferred Vendor!

The Ladies of Hallak Bridal - another SocialBFly preferred vendor!

The Winning Couple...they were so cute!

NY Fashion Week Recap: Carmelita Couture

Carmelita Couture is a women’s wear line made up of innovative pieces with a bold yet sophisticated style.  It was born out of a deeper need to show personal self-expression.

The Fall 2012 Collection, called “Revelation”, was showcased during NY Fashion Week and is inspired by what she calls, the most symbolic, prophetic, and final Book of the Bible.

I had the pleasure of attending the showcase, which was held at the Designer’s Loft [New York, NY].  Truth be told, this was my first time attending NY Fashion Week and I was able to get some really good photos on my new Blackberry Bold 9900.  Take a look…

This slideshow requires JavaScript.

About the Designer
For Carmelita, fashion is an outward display of our inner self.  Self taught, Carmelita’s collection draws from her deep spiritual need to create and show the delicate balance of the strong, femine persona.
Based out of Philadelphia, Martell, continuously works to make designs for the fearless feminine.  Her goal each season is to make women feel like what they are wearing is one of a king and helps them express their own unique style.

The Story of Lover’s Rock

If you’re in New York on the 23rd (of February), you may want to add this film screening to your social itinerary.  It’s a love story about reggae music but a love story nonetheless.

Film Screening: The Story of Lover’s Rock
Thursday, February 23, 7 p.m.
Iris and B. Gerald Cantor Auditorium, 3rd Floor

The Story of Lover’s Rock documents the rise of romantic reggae, and its influence on UK culture in the late 1970s and early 80s, through a combination of live performances, interviews, and comedy sketches.

The Story of Lovers Rock sees the welcome return after an absence of 15 years,
one of Britain’s most important storytellers, director Menelik Shabazz.

He is perhaps best known for his award winning feature BURNING AN ILLUSION (1982).

Space is limited, and advance ticket purchase for general admission and entrance to the screening is recommended via www.museumtix.com.

I’m interested in seeing this so check out the preview below and let me know if you plan on checking it out.

All About Town: Real Simple Pop Up Shop in Bryant Park

One of my goals for 2012 is to do a better job sharing with you my many adventures out on the town.  But because there’s no time like the present… A few Saturdays ago, I took an early morning trip to Bryant Park to check out the Real Simple Pop Up Shop.  It was more like a holiday vendor fair and we took full advantage of the opportunity to get a jump start on some gift shopping.  In the midst of chocolate tastings, Loreal makeovers and bustling crowds, I stumbled across several really cute wedding gift ideas which I expertly photographed and posted below…

Satin Wedding Dress Necklace Holders

Porcelain Wedding Slipper Ring Holder

Wine and Coaster Duo

‘And They Lived Happily Ever After’ Personalized Decorative Pillow

Heart Shaped Tea-Steeper

Bridal Event Alert: Join Lela Rose for the Launch of the New Bridesmaids Collection


Image courtesy of dessy.com

Brides, are you looking for fun, new, fashion to dress your bridesmaids in?  You may be able to find what you’re looking for at the upcoming launch of Lela Rose’s new bridesmaid collection.   Head over to the Wedding Library [43 East 78th St, NY] on Thursday, November 4 between 6 and 8 pm.  RSVP is required for this event.  For more information, call 212.327.0100.  Let us know if you’ll be in the crowd…we’d love to meet you.

Back to School Night with David Tutera

You’ve seen him on WEtv’s, “My Fair Wedding”.  He’s been lovingly crowned ‘Wizard’, ‘Godfather’, ‘Fairy Godfather’, and ‘Prince’ by the brides who’s wedding dreams he’s made a reality.  And last night I had the pleasure of being taken back to school by event planner extraordinaire, David Tutera at a Learning Annex event held at the lavish Hilton Hotel in Downtown Manhattan, NYC .

What can I say besides…He was fabulous! Throughout the course of the night we learned little DT Gems like he doesn’t belong to any associations, which is especially ironic considering he’s starting one in 2011, and he’s never paid for any form of advertising (thanks David!! I finally have an answer to my, To Advertise or Not to Advertise, question!). Just to give you an idea of how much information was covered, I went home with 8 pages of notes but because this is not a book report (remember those?), I’ll bestow upon you a few of my [paraphrased and in my own words] favorites, which I’ve categorized below:

Learn your Client. David urged us as planners to learn how to listen to the client and to learn what they want and who they are.  “Become emotionally connected to your client…” He suggests that 75% of the conversation, during the first hour spent meeting with a new client, should be about them and as you’re listening jot down five adjectives that are a recurring theme in the discussion.  Include those words in the proposal so they feel like they’ve written their own proposal.

Looking for ways to motivate (or rejuvenate) your creative edge? Opening up your client base and vendor base were two of David’s simple suggestions.  In both cases, lack of variety can quickly lead to stale and cookie-cutter ideas.   Creating a story also has many benefits to ensuring each event experience is unique.

Keep the Party Going. “Weddings are about the Bride and Groom but more importantly it should be about the guests.  Something different should happen every 30 minutes putting guests on a journey and preventing boredom.”

With plans for 2011 that include the launching of a new jewelry line of wedding and engagement rings, the David Tutera Wedding Certification Course and the launching of a line of bridal crafts, it’s hard to not think of him as some kind of super wedding action hero so imagine how great it was to learn that he isn’t impervious to things like burnout, planners block, and annoying clients.  Yes, annoying clients get on his nerves also! Here are some of his tips to help cope and better manage Life as a Planner:

  • In order to avoid burnout minimize the amount of time spent socializing with people in the business because what you end up doing is talking about work all of the time!
  • “Never under price yourself.  When you do, you’re under pricing your confidence”.
  • Take baby steps.  Don’t leap.  Become good in one section and segue way into another.
  • Networking with organizations such as MPI, ISES, and ABC to build your contacts is good but also branch out and make your own networks.
    • Your network mix should be 70% social and 30% corporate.
  • “As event planners it is important to create a team of vendors who you are confident can deliver and are willing to support (even if something goes wrong)”.
  • Reforecast yourself every 3 years and in that time, always move prices a little higher.
  • Breaking even on a project is fine but losing money is never good!
  • You are a Mediator, Therapist, Counselor, and Wedding Planner Last. Know when you switch hats”.

There were also valuable little tidbits about destination weddings and the real story behind the Joan Rivers scandal but you had to be there.  Overall the learning experience was priceless and even though his manager came across as more of a sharpshooter for the CIA thus preventing me from getting a picture with David, I will still continue to be a faithfully loyal My Fair Wedding watcher til death do us part.

Hello world!

(That was the default title WordPress assigned to our first blog and it worked…so we’re sticking with it.)

Hello World and welcome to our little piece of the blogosphere. Behind the Veil…Beyond the Vows is the new official blog for Socialbfly and in case this is the first time you’re hearing of us, Socialbfly is a special events and lifestyle marketing boutique geared to enhancing every aspect of our clients lives through three unique and trendsetting studios:

  • The Imaging Studio provides assistance to individuals and businesses looking to alter, enhance, or maintain any and all aspects of their lives.  We work with a sassy lineup of indie stylists, motivational speakers, and designers to provide personal services, seminars and workshops that successfully enhance our clients’ definition of love, life, look and luxury
  • The Publicity Boutique specializes in providing premier marketing and publicity services for businesses, brands, and personalities anchored in arts, entertainment and womens health and beauty
  • The Event Design Studio is actually comprised of 4 Boutiques geared to our most popular client types: Charities and Small Businesses, Children, Girlfriends and Blushing Brides-to-be

We also host an annual calendar of events throughout NJ, and the surrounding areas, that are used to raise funds and awareness about charitable causes.   Stay tuned because the  “Behind the Veil…Beyond the Vows Bridal Expo” is in the works and we’d love to see you there.

For much more information on our services visit our website, http://www.socialbfly.com.  In the meantime, stick around and see what the fuss is about as we explore all of the ins and outs of the wedding experience and beyond (Yes, there is life after marriage…lol).   They’ll be a lot of housekeeping taking place in the weeks ahead so pardon our dust but we promise to keep you entertained in the meantime. We’ll be launching with a 26 week series on the ABCs of Wedding Planning very shortly as well as profiling our first feature vendor so make sure you don’t stay gone long.

Hello World!  We’re Here!!!