The Royal Wedding Rewind

harry-meghan-royal-wedding-26On May 19, 2018, the world witnessed Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle marry at St George’s Chapel surrounded by their family and friends. Thousands of people lined the streets of Windsor to get a glimpse of the happy couple,  and millions more around the world watched on television and online.  Because our invitation got lost in the mail we were amongst the many groggily tuned in at 4:30am (though admittedly without tea and scones) to the royal affair.

And a royal affair it was…and in case you missed it we’ve combed the entire internet to bring you the details.

Let’s just cut straight to the price tag.  Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s royal wedding racked up a royal price tag coming in at an estimated $45 million.

Despite the steep total, that’s nothing compared to the price of Princess Diana and Prince Charles’ 1981 ceremony, which cost $110 million (adjusted for inflation). It did, however cost more than 2011 Prince William’s wedding to Kate Middleton, which totaled about $34 million.

So what does a $45M dollar wedding consist of?

Well, lot’s of security, for one.  As you can imagine, great lengths were taken to ensure the safety and security of not only a highly revered couple but that of the very high profile guest list and the public.  As such, security was the most expensive factor.

Yep, you read that correctly.  The biggest chunk of the bill – about $40 million total – didn’t go to the venue, dress, catering or decor—it went to keeping the celebrants, guests, and public safe.

BRITAIN-US-ROYALS-WEDDING-GUESTSEven though the ceremony didn’t take place in London’s crowded city center, thousands of members of the public were invited into Windsor Castle grounds for the special event, and about 100,000 spectators were estimated to gather in the town of Windsor.

Safety protocol likely included rooftop snipers, undercover street police,  a counter-UAV system (which deactivate intruder and paparazzi drones), and a “drone destroyer, ” according to UK wedding planning app, Bridebook.  This is not a wedding I’d show up to without being 100% sure I was on the guest list.serena-williams-wedding-lede

It was initially announced that the royal family would be paying for the wedding, but their part of the bill would only cover “the core aspects of the wedding, such as the church service, the associated music, flowers, decorations, and the reception afterwards,” the palace announced. Taxpayers are likely responsible for security costs, The Independent reports.

The Bride’s Attire

Though not confirmed, it’s very possible the bride picked up the tab for her wedding gown, which was a custom design by the acclaimed British designer, Clare Waight Keller, who just last year became the first female Artistic Director at the historic French fashion house Givenchy.

Meghan and Ms. Waight Keller worked closely together on the gown, creating a design of pure lines achieved using six meticulously placed seams extended towards the back where the train flowed in soft round folds cushioned by an underskirt in triple silk organza. The focus of the dress was the graphic open bateau neckline that gracefully framed her shoulders and emphasized the slender sculpted waist and the slim three-quarter sleeves add a note of refined modernity.

The dress epitomized timeless minimal elegance referencing the codes of the iconic House of Givenchy and showcasing the expert craftsmanship of its world-renowned Parisian couture atelier founded in 1952.

The Duchess expressed the wish of having all 53 countries of the Commonwealth – of which Her Majesty, the Queen, is Head – with her on her journey through the ceremony and with that Ms. Waight Keller designed a veil, made of silk tulle and nearly 16.5 feet long, representing the distinctive flora of each Commonwealth country united in one spectacular fashion floral arrangement.

Each flower was worked flat, in three dimensions to create a unique and delicate design. The workers spent hundreds of hours meticulously sewing and washing their hands every thirty minutes to keep the tulle and threads pristine.

In addition to the flora of the Commonwealth, Meghan also selected two personal favorites, Wintersweet (Chimonanthus praecox), which grows in the grounds of Kensington Palace in front of Nottingham Cottage, and the California Poppy (Eschscholzia californica) the State flower from the bride’s place of birth, California.

Symmetrically placed at the very front of the veil were crops of wheat, delicately embroidered and blended into the flora, to symbolize love and charity.

The veil was held in place by Queen Mary’s diamond bandeau tiara, lent to Meghan by The Queen. The diamond and platinum bandeau is English and was made in 1932, with the center brooch dating from 1893 and was formed as a flexible band of eleven sections, pierced with interlaced ovals and pavé set with large and small brilliant diamonds.  The center was set with a detachable brooch of ten brilliant diamonds.


The diamond bandeau was made for Queen Mary and specifically designed to accommodate the center brooch. This brooch was given as a present to the then Princess Mary in 1893 by the County of Lincoln on her marriage to Prince George, Duke of York.  The bandeau and the brooch were bequeathed by Queen Mary to The Queen in 1953.

To finish the look, the Bride wore earrings and a bracelet made by Cartier. The wedding shoes were based on a Givenchy refined pointed couture design made of a silk duchess satin.  Meghan’s hair was styled by Serge Normant, with make-up by long-time friend and make-up artist Daniel Martin.  And she looked TIMELESS!!

The Bouquet

The Bride’s bouquet was a darling petite design by florist, Philippa Craddock, pulled together in a gentle, ethereal, relaxed style with delicate blooms also including scented sweet peas, lily of the valley, astilbe, jasmine and astrantia, and sprigs of myrtle – grown from the myrtle used in The Queen’s wedding bouquet of 1947- all bound with naturally dyed, raw silk ribbon.  The spring blooms include Forget-Me-Nots which were Princess Diana’s favorite flower.

And in what is an absolute beautifully romantic gesture, Prince Harry handpicked several flowers from their private garden at Kensington Palace to add to the final bouquet (Insert SWOON here!)


The myrtle was first carried by Queen Victoria’s eldest daughter, Princess Victoria, when she married in 1858.

Bridesmaids’ Dresses

Clare Waight Keller also designed the six young Bridesmaids’ dresses in the Givenchy Haute Couture Atelier in Paris to have the same timeless purity as Meghan’s dress.

Each dress – high-waisted with short puff sleeves and hand finished with a double silk ribbon detail tied at the back in a bow, pockets and pleated skirts – was sculpted in Ivory silk Radzimir to create a relaxed and luxurious silhouette.

White leather Aquazurra shoes – monogrammed with the Bridesmaids initials, and the wedding date – were gifted from Meghan to the young ladies as a keepsake of the special day.  How cute!!

Bridesmaids’ Flowers

The bridesmaids adorned crowns of flowers replicating the flowers used in the bridal bouquet and were also designed by florist Philippa Craddock.


The Page Boys

The four Pages wore a miniature version of the Blues and Royals frock-coat which were cut and made by tailors Dege & Skinner.

Their leg garments were made from blue/black wool barathea with three-quarter scarlet stripes fastened with a leather strap.

As a special memento, each Page had their initials embroidered in gold on their shoulder straps.

Mother of the Bride’s Dress

Meghan and Mom on Wedding Day

Ms. Doria Ragland was a beacon of sunshine in a custom dress and day coat designed by creative directors of Oscar de la Renta, Fernando Garcia and Laura Kim.  Her shoes were designed by Edgardo Osorio of Aquazurra, and her custom hat was designed exclusively for her by British milliner Stephen Jones, O.B.E.

Stephen Jones was also commissioned by Ms. Markle to create custom hats for several of her closest friends.

The Groom’s Attire

Prince William, who is commissioned in all three Armed Services, and who has served actively with the Army (The Household Cavalry Regiment) and with the Royal Air Force (Search and Rescue Force), chose to wear the uniform of Colonel of the Irish Guards on his Wedding Day.

Prince Harry and his bride chose Cleave and Company to make their Wedding rings.

Meghan’s ring was fashioned from a piece of Welsh Gold, gifted by The Queen, while Prince Harry’s ring was a Platinum Band with a textured finish. Both rings were crafted in the Cleave workshop and were carried to St George’s Chapel on the day of the Wedding by The Duke of Cambridge, in his capacity as Best Man.

The Ceremony

On the morning of the wedding, Kensington Palace published the order of service online, which was conducted by the Dean of Windsor and officiated by the Archbishop of Canterbury. The couple selected words from The Marriage Service from Common Worship (2000), using contemporary language – such as the word “you” instead of “thee” and “thou” – and, as is common these days, Meghan did not promise to “obey” Harry.

Ben E King’s soul classic “Stand By Me” was performed by Karen Gibson and The Kingdom Choir, and a gospel choir performed Etta James’s version of “Amen/This Little Light of Mine” as the newlyweds left the chapel. Hymns included the Welsh rugby anthem “Guide Me, O Thou Great Redeemer”, otherwise known as “Bread of Heaven”.

After the couple were married, they undertook a carriage procession from St George’s Chapel through Windsor town returning to Windsor Castle along the Long Walk.

BRITAIN-US-ROYALS-WEDDING-CEREMONYNext destination…the wedding reception – a private affair for 200 close friends and family – at the Frogmore House.

Prince Charles hosted the black-tie bash, described by guests as “magical,” which began on Saturday evening and raged on into the early hours of Sunday morning.  Guests were requested to hand their phones over when they arrived to ensure the celebrity packed party remained private, which explains why we’re still collecting the details but so far, here’s what we know.
The Speeches


Harry’s best man, his big brother Prince William, led the way, apparently opening the speeches with ‘filthy’ jokes that had the crowds roaring with laughter.

Harry’s oldest friend Charlie van Straubenzee – who William introduced as ‘God’s gift, Charlesworth’ – then took over and proceeded to poke fun.

Van Straubenzee told guests how Harry was his dormitory monitor when he arrived at Ludgrove School in Berkshire aged eight.

Crowds were said to be in stitches when van Straubenzee teased Harry about his penchant for falling off Polo horses, saying: “He’s always so hungover when he plays!”

On a more serious note, van Straubenzee then turned to talk of tough times, seeing his friend going through the loss of his mother, Princess Diana, in 1997.

It was Harry’s turn to take the mic next, and he is said to have led with a tribute to his dad, the Prince of Wales, thanking him for all the love he gives him and his brother.

He also thanked Meghan’s mother for her “amazing daughter, my wife,” which a guest said had the whole room cheering.

Harry is said to have ended his speech by turning to the glowing Meghan and telling her she looked “simply stunning,” and that he felt “very, very lucky to have you by my side.”

And then, guests say, he told them all to have a “serious party!”

Meghan closed off the speeches, making history as the first royal bride to speak at her wedding.

One guest said Meghan thanked the Queen and the rest of the royal family for making her feel so welcomed.

She thanked Prince Charles especially for walking her down the aisle after her father couldn’t make it, and for being so kind to her mother. Guests said she said plenty of lovely things about her new husband too.

After the speeches ended, James Corden surprised everyone with a performance in full Tudor dress-up, making an entrance saying: “Your royal highnesses, ladies and gentlemen, I had no idea what to wear to a royal wedding so I looked it up in the royal etiquette manual and found this outfit.”


The earlier parts of the evening are said to have guests dancing to a soul band singing classics such as In the Midnight Hour, Soul Man and My Girl and THEN, Actor Idris Elba (and imaginary future husband) took over the turntables and got the party started later in the evening. It is also rumored that the Godmother himself, Elton John, performed and Meghan, officially the Duchess of Sussex, read a poem to Prince Harry that brought the entire room to tears.

The Menu

Chef Claire Smyth, protege of celebrity chef Gordon Ramsay, was in charge of the menu for the evening. Here is what guests tucked into:

Pre-dinner aperitifs and canapés

  • Peach bellinis and champagne served with hoisin duck and organic Duchy home farm beef carpaccio canapés


Royal Wedding Reception


  • Potato and roe with beurre blanc, herring and trout roe

Main course

  • 64-day aged roast chicken (a reference to Harry proposing to Meghan while “trying to roast a chicken”) with sage, onion and veggies


  • Wild strawberries and lemon verbena


  • Lincolnshire cheddar

Late night snacks from 1am

  • Toasted gruyere and truffle cheese toasties
  • Bacon sandwiches
  • Mini burgers
  • Wine, beer and liqueur (bar and cocktails by Jack Chaplin)
  • Old World wine: Bourgogne Les Settles Olivier Leflaive, Burgundy
  • New World wine: Domaine Eden Pinot Noir, Santa Cruz Mountains, California
  • 10-year-old Somerset cider brandy
  • Core Beer from Two Tribes Brewery, West Sussex
  • Port wine gums, made with Taylor’s Port, 1984, from Prince Harry’s christening

Royal Wedding Cake

The cake – a lemon elderflower bake that incorporated the bright flavours of spring – was made by Violet Bakery’s Claire Ptak, and the flowers – branches of beech, birch and hornbeam, and white garden roses, peonies and foxgloves from the gardens and parkland of the Crown Estate and Windsor Park – were arranged by Philippa Craddock.

The couple announced that they would forgo any traditional wedding presents in favor of donations to the following causes: CHIVA (Children’s HIV Association), Crisis (a UK-based homelessness charity), the Myna Mahila Foundation (a charity that supports women in Mumbai’s urban slums), Scotty’s Little Soldiers (which helps bereaved Armed Forces children), StreetGames (a foundation using sport to change lives), Surfers against Sewage and The Wilderness Foundation UK (which promotes the enjoyment of wild nature).


And so, as the magical, decadent evening finally ended and guests had to drag themselves away, one of them said: “None of us ever wanted to leave.” It seems certain to be a night none of them will ever forget.

Meghan and Harry haven’t embarked on their honeymoon just yet. The two are delaying the trip and will head straight to work instead, attending their first royal engagement as a married couple the very next day at a garden party in honor of Prince Charles.

Congratulations again to the happy couple!

Did you watch the wedding?  What were your thoughts?  Tell us in the comments below!


Music Mondays: I’m Sure It’s You

Music MondayEvery once in a while a song is released that reminds you why love is so awesome.  And I’m Sure It’s You by Shelea is another one of those songs to make our #MusicMonday list and our growing list of SocialBFly Love Songs on Spotify.  Don’t believe me?  Listen for yourself and keep it in mind when considering songs for your walk down the aisle.
It’s just the little things that tell you
That you are right where you should be
And whether we’re in love or out of it
There’s something deep inside my heart that tells meI’m sure it’s you, I’m sure its you
None could ever change my mind
Or convince me otherwise
My heart belongs to you
I know we’ll make it through
I’m sure it’s youIf we could do everything over
I wouldn’t try to change a thing
Coz every inch has made us stronger
I’m glad we took the time to wait for God’s sign

I’m sure it’s you, I’m sure it’s you
None could ever change my mind
Or convince me otherwise
My heart belongs to you
I know we’ll make it through
I’m sure it’s you

Today I’m standing here without any fear
You see every moments lead me right to you
But when the cares of life make it hard to believe
I’ll remeber you were meant for me the one to set me free

And I’m sure it’s you, I’m sure it’s you
No one could ever change my mind
Or convince me otherwise
My heart belongs to you
I know we’ll make it through
I’m sure it’s you

Oh baby
I know in my heart it’s you
That’s why I’m gonna say I do
I’m sure it’s you

Music Monday: Why I Love You

Every once in a while a song is released that reminds you why love is so awesome.  And Why I love You by Major is one of those songs.  Don’t believe me?  Listen for yourself and keep it in mind when considering songs for your walk down the aisle.

I found love in you

And I’ve learned to love me too

Never have I felt that I could be all that you see

It’s like our hearts have intertwined and to the perfect harmony

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

I found love in you

And no other love will do

Every moment that you smile chases all of the pain away

Forever and a while in my heart is where you’ll stay

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

The stars have all aligned

And right now is the perfect time to say

I love you, I love you, I love you

I love you, I love you

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me


I found love in you

And no other love will do

That’s why I love you

2017 Wedding Predictions [to Ditch], According to David Tutera


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When it comes to wedding trends, the rules of engagement are constantly changing.  And for 2017, yet another evolution of wedding planning is upon us.  In a recent interview with Brides Magazine, celebrity wedding planner David Tutera recommended these as the coveted en trend details to incorporate into your 2017 wedding.

David says: Ditch The After-Party
While you might be bummed to hear this at first, Tutera really believes guests should stay put, and you can bring the “after-party” to the party. “I want guests to stay in one location, and keep the energy escalating and flowing,” he explains. The wedding is the main event, so why risk losing the party vibes with a venue change? Tutera suggests couples can, “create movement and energy in one environment with lighting, entertainment, opening up a different bar or dessert station, etc.”

SocialBFly says: LOVE this idea and agree on all fronts!  It’s the reason why we adore one-venue weddings so much.

David Says: Modern & Industrial Vibes will be En Trend
Tutera forecasts a mix of metallics and whites to top the palette charts of 2017/2018, but forget the golds and shiny silvers. Softer, brushed metallic popping from bright white accents are a color combo made in heaven, and will totally help to achieve those “contemporary yet city hip vibes” that will be so on-trend. Combine this color palate with industrial and modern touches for a fashionable yet classy look.

SocialBFly says:  Metallics, when used correctly, can add a romantic edge to any decor motif so we’re heavy metal all the way!!

David says: Stay Connected
Regardless of what trends, themes, or vibes you’re going for, Tutera stresses the importance of remaining connected with your new spouse throughout the wedding day celebrations. “What’s been happening is couples separate to their friends and don’t hang out with their significant other on their celebration. That’s not good. That’s something I am trying to force people to understand is incredibly important.”

SocialBFly says: Noted!

paper-floral-wallDavid says: Incorporate Paper
Whether it’s in floral bouquets, incorporated into your big-day décor, or used as a way to preserve special wedding “memory moments,” incorporating paper into your wedding day is quickly growing in popularity — and for good reason. Economical, potentially eco-friendly and unique in any way you use it, paper isn’t just for wedding invitations anymore. Tutera says, “there’s so many interesting things you can do,” and adds, “People are sort of surprised, like oh my gosh, look what you can do with paper.”

SocialBFly says: Paper can add a variety of depth and texture to your wedding motif so this is yet another 2017 trend we are looking forward to.

David says: Ditch Receiving Lines
“I am not a fan of receiving lines,” admits Tutera. He adds, “I think it creates a large barrier of etiquette for that celebration — it’s too formal.” Instead, opt to greet your guests during cocktail hour, and throughout the night. It may not seem like it, but you will have the time.

SocialBFly says: A-GREED!!!  Goodness grief, we agree!!  There’s nothing that screams old-fashioned more than seeing the Bride and Groom with their bridal party lined up at the end of the ceremony waiting to greet all of the guests who attended.  Like David said, IT’S TOO FORMAL!!  And we like to make sure that the couples has enough time to personally greet their guests during the reception.

David says: First Looks
These are a keeper. Tutera gushes, “I love first looks. I think they’re brilliant. It takes me forever to convince a bride and groom to do that,” but he adds, “They’re more personal — I love them.”

SocialBFly says: I will forever have mixed feelings about the first look trend.  On one hand, it is an awesome way to ensure the couple spends as much time during the wedding and reception having fun interacting with their guests.  But the traditionalist in me (YES! the same traditionalist that does not like receiving lines…)  will always have a heart that skips a beat when a groom sees his wife take to the aisle for the very first time.

What are your predictions for 2017 weddings and brides?  Are there any wedding trends you’d like to see go away? Do you agree/disagree with David (or our) assessment of the future of weddings?

Does Your Wedding Require a Wedding Program?


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Though optional, a wedding program can provide the perfect way to highlight and thank friends and family who contributed to the big day. Couples who are short on time or money may wish to forego this option, but remember that a simple wedding program doesn’t need to use many resources and many times, can be a simple DIY project for a member of the bridal party.  If you’re unsure of whether or not you should include it as part of your wedding stationery, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Am I having a religious or traditional wedding, with many guests who are of another faith or culture?
  • Am I having a large wedding, where guests are unlikely to know the bridal party?
  • Am I having a particularly long ceremony where guests will want to be prepared to wait a while?
  • Do I have many people to thank for their contributions to our wedding day?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, then I would most likely recommend providing a wedding program for your guests.

There is no “one size fits all” template for creating your wedding program but typically, the cover or header will include the date and/or names of the couple.  It may also include the location and time of the ceremony, a picture, or design element.

Next, you’ll want to outline the Order of Events for your ceremony in the order they will include.  This includes processional music, greeting, readings, prayers, exchange of vows, ring ceremony, unity candle ceremony, pronouncement of marriage, recessional music, and any other ceremony music.

You may also want to use your wedding program to explain the meaning of traditions or rituals used in your ceremony; acknowledge loved ones who are in spirit, highlight the bridal party; or ask for audience participation in certain parts of the ceremony.  Remember, you can customize your program to your desires so get creative – add a quote, throw in a fun fact! – and make it your own!

Choosing Your Wedding Officiant

While the reception is perhaps the most entertaining section of the wedding day, the ceremony is the most important.  Therefore it should be intimately reflective of the values and character of the union you are establishing through the exchange of your vows.  It’s for this reason that choosing your Officiant may be one of the most important vendors you hire to be present on your wedding day.  If you don’t already have someone who can officiate your wedding, here are some things to consider when you are choosing one:


There are 3 basic wedding ceremonies: Religious, Secular or Interfaith. Choose which of the following statements closest describes the type of faith-based wedding ceremony you should explore:

  1. My fiancé and I share a common religious background and plan to manage our household and raise out children in accordance with this particular faith.
  2. My fiancé and I are not particularly religious and we’d much rather incorporate a lot of personal elements into our wedding ceremony.
  3. My fiancé and I practice different religious backgrounds and plan to incorporate elements of both into our wedding ceremony.

If you chose statement 1, consider a religious ceremony and choose the priest, rabbi or minister from your place of worship. If you don’t regularly attend religious services, search for churches or synagogues in your area. Each will have a clergy person who performs wedding ceremonies.

If you chose statement 2, consider a secular ceremony and ask your county clerk for a list of state credentialed Justices of the Peace to contact, starting with those that live closest to the location of your ceremony.

If you chose statement 3, consider an interfaith ceremony. You might be able to find a nondenominational minister who can incorporate elements of both religions into the ceremony, or you might want to start searching for two officiants!


Once you’ve decided on the type of ceremony you want to have you’ll need to consider your venue.  A Religious or Interfaith wedding ceremony will most traditionally take place Temple, Church or similar building of worship and you may be able to choose a minister from among its staff of clergy.  If your secular wedding ceremony leads you to an outdoor or nontraditional venue, be sure your Officiant is comfortable with conducting the ceremony outside of a formal place of worship.


If you are unable to select an Officiant from the roster of clergymen provided by your religious or interfaith venue, you’ll want to keep a few additional things in mind as you continue your search.  First, each state has their own marriage laws so not all Officiants are created equal. Just because someone can perform a ceremony in Washington doesn’t always mean they can perform one in Arkansas so make sure that the ordination your officiant has is legal in the state you are getting married in.  The rules for NJ, PA, CT, NY, and DE are as follows:

  • Connecticut: Any ordained or licensed clergymen, and justices of the peace.
  • Delaware: Any ordained minister, and clerks of the peace. If you have your marriage ceremony at the office of the Clerk of the Peace, there is a $20 fee for the civil marriage ceremony.
  • New Jersey: Any ordained or licensed clergymen, and justices of the peace.
  • New York: According to Section 11 of the Domestic Relations Law, an officiant must be an authorized, officially ordained member of the clergy or a public official in the State of New York such as a mayor, city clerk, deputy city clerk, appointed marriage officer, justice, or judge. In New York City, an officiant must be registered with the City of New York. Ship captains cannot perform marriage ceremonies in New York State.
  • Pennsylvania: Couples can obtain a self-uniting license. Any ordained minister, priest or rabbi of any regularly established church or congregation, Judges, Justices of Peace, and County Clerks or their appointed Deputies may perform wedding ceremonies. Mayors of cities and boroughs are also authorized to perform marriage ceremonies.

You may also consider asking a close friend or family member to Officiate your wedding ceremony but before you go this route, make sure you check the list of check the list of state marriage laws. A few states—such as California, Massachusetts, and Alaska will grant one-day Deputy Commissioner of Marriage status.

Online directories such as’s Directory of Officiants , Onewed’s Vendor Search Tool and The Knot’s  Local Wedding Resources are great starting points for couples who have no idea where to begin looking for a ceremony Officiant.  Twitter is also an excellent resource and we highly recommend following our mobile wedding officant friends over at WedonWheels.

…Did you know that I am an ordained nondenominational officiant and can legally sign a marriage license.  It’s not one of the main services offered by SocialBFly but it is  the ultimate tool in my wedding emergency kit!

You may also consider asking a close friend or family member to Officiate your wedding ceremony but before you go this route, make sure you check the list of state marriage laws. A few states – such as California, Massachusetts and Alaska – will grant regular individuals one-day Deputy Commissioner of Marriage status.


Get to know the officiants that you are considering so that you can make an informed decision. Conduct interviews to find the wedding Officiant who can best represent your beliefs.   During the interview, you’ll want to ask the following questions:

  • How long has s/he been performing weddings?
  • Why does s/he perform weddings?
  • What speeches or sermons does s/he plan to recite during the wedding ceremony?
  • Learn officiants’ permissions, restrictions or requirements to see if they match your ideals:
  • Will s/he require you and your fiancé to attend premarital counseling and/or regular services in order to officiate a wedding?
  • Will s/he allow you to write and recite your own wedding vows?
  • Are you permitted to incorporate songs or independent readings into the order of the ceremony?
  • Can you attend another service that the officiant s/he is conducting or see video clips of them speaking?
  • What is the fee and are there additional charges, such as travel and rehearsal attendance?
  • Is s/he available for your wedding date and time?


Once you’ve interviewed and selected the Officiant you think best fits your wedding , schedule a meeting to write down the detailed vendor agreement.  You’ll want to make sure it includes a clear breakdown of prices, cancellation policies, expected arrival times on the day of your wedding and a realistic backup plan should anything prevent them from physically carrying out the agreement.

Music Monday: Golden

Today’s #MusicMonday song selection is Golden, a traditionally romantic ballad from Chrisette’s debut album, I AM. I always think wedding processional or first dance whenever I hear this song.


Take me back in the day when loving was pure
Love ain’t going away, love is always secure
Life’s not always perfect but love’s always forever
Lets let true love connect lets try lasting together

I’m so ready to love, I’m so ready to promise my all
I’m so ready to give ’til the day that my life is no more
I’ll be everything that this woman can possibly be
Cause I’m ready to be like the olden days when commitment was golden

Be the man of my dreams and get down on one knee, love
Say you’ll be all I need and then ask me to marry you, my love
Lets take two golden bands and lets walk down the isle, love
I’ll say I do and you’ll say I do, make a golden commitment, oh

I’m so ready to love, I’m so ready to promise my all
and I’m so ready to give ’til the day that my life is no more
I’ll be everything that this woman could possibly be, yes I will
Cause I’m ready to be like the olden days when commitment was golden

Let’s last forever (let’s last forever)
No typical American shady love
Let’s stay together (let’s stay together)
Pray God smile upon our everlasting love

I’m so ready to love, I’m so ready to promise my all
and I’m so ready to give ’til the day that my life is no more
I’ll be everything that this woman could possibly be, yes I will
Cause I’m ready to be like the olden days when commitment was golden

I’m so ready to love, I’m so ready to promise my all
and I’m so ready to give ’til the day that my life is no more
I’ll be everything that this woman could possibly be
Cause I’m ready to be like the olden days when commitment was golden

oh oh my
Golden love
Cause commitment is golden
Mmm mmm