Music Monday: Why I Love You

Every once in a while a song is released that reminds you why love is so awesome.  And Why I love You by Major is one of those songs.  Don’t believe me?  Listen for yourself and keep it in mind when considering songs for your walk down the aisle.

I found love in you

And I’ve learned to love me too

Never have I felt that I could be all that you see

It’s like our hearts have intertwined and to the perfect harmony

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

I found love in you

And no other love will do

Every moment that you smile chases all of the pain away

Forever and a while in my heart is where you’ll stay

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

The stars have all aligned

And right now is the perfect time to say

I love you, I love you, I love you

I love you, I love you

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

You love me

This is why I love you

Ooh this is why I love you

Because you love me

Me

I found love in you

And no other love will do

That’s why I love you

2017 Wedding Predictions [to Ditch], According to David Tutera

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When it comes to wedding trends, the rules of engagement are constantly changing.  And for 2017, yet another evolution of wedding planning is upon us.  In a recent interview with Brides Magazine, celebrity wedding planner David Tutera recommended these as the coveted en trend details to incorporate into your 2017 wedding.

David says: Ditch The After-Party
While you might be bummed to hear this at first, Tutera really believes guests should stay put, and you can bring the “after-party” to the party. “I want guests to stay in one location, and keep the energy escalating and flowing,” he explains. The wedding is the main event, so why risk losing the party vibes with a venue change? Tutera suggests couples can, “create movement and energy in one environment with lighting, entertainment, opening up a different bar or dessert station, etc.”

SocialBFly says: LOVE this idea and agree on all fronts!  It’s the reason why we adore one-venue weddings so much.

David Says: Modern & Industrial Vibes will be En Trend
Tutera forecasts a mix of metallics and whites to top the palette charts of 2017/2018, but forget the golds and shiny silvers. Softer, brushed metallic popping from bright white accents are a color combo made in heaven, and will totally help to achieve those “contemporary yet city hip vibes” that will be so on-trend. Combine this color palate with industrial and modern touches for a fashionable yet classy look.

SocialBFly says:  Metallics, when used correctly, can add a romantic edge to any decor motif so we’re heavy metal all the way!!

David says: Stay Connected
Regardless of what trends, themes, or vibes you’re going for, Tutera stresses the importance of remaining connected with your new spouse throughout the wedding day celebrations. “What’s been happening is couples separate to their friends and don’t hang out with their significant other on their celebration. That’s not good. That’s something I am trying to force people to understand is incredibly important.”

SocialBFly says: Noted!

paper-floral-wallDavid says: Incorporate Paper
Whether it’s in floral bouquets, incorporated into your big-day décor, or used as a way to preserve special wedding “memory moments,” incorporating paper into your wedding day is quickly growing in popularity — and for good reason. Economical, potentially eco-friendly and unique in any way you use it, paper isn’t just for wedding invitations anymore. Tutera says, “there’s so many interesting things you can do,” and adds, “People are sort of surprised, like oh my gosh, look what you can do with paper.”

SocialBFly says: Paper can add a variety of depth and texture to your wedding motif so this is yet another 2017 trend we are looking forward to.

David says: Ditch Receiving Lines
“I am not a fan of receiving lines,” admits Tutera. He adds, “I think it creates a large barrier of etiquette for that celebration — it’s too formal.” Instead, opt to greet your guests during cocktail hour, and throughout the night. It may not seem like it, but you will have the time.

SocialBFly says: A-GREED!!!  Goodness grief, we agree!!  There’s nothing that screams old-fashioned more than seeing the Bride and Groom with their bridal party lined up at the end of the ceremony waiting to greet all of the guests who attended.  Like David said, IT’S TOO FORMAL!!  And we like to make sure that the couples has enough time to personally greet their guests during the reception.

David says: First Looks
These are a keeper. Tutera gushes, “I love first looks. I think they’re brilliant. It takes me forever to convince a bride and groom to do that,” but he adds, “They’re more personal — I love them.”

SocialBFly says: I will forever have mixed feelings about the first look trend.  On one hand, it is an awesome way to ensure the couple spends as much time during the wedding and reception having fun interacting with their guests.  But the traditionalist in me (YES! the same traditionalist that does not like receiving lines…)  will always have a heart that skips a beat when a groom sees his wife take to the aisle for the very first time.

What are your predictions for 2017 weddings and brides?  Are there any wedding trends you’d like to see go away? Do you agree/disagree with David (or our) assessment of the future of weddings?

Does Your Wedding Require a Wedding Program?

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Though optional, a wedding program can provide the perfect way to highlight and thank friends and family who contributed to the big day. Couples who are short on time or money may wish to forego this option, but remember that a simple wedding program doesn’t need to use many resources and many times, can be a simple DIY project for a member of the bridal party.  If you’re unsure of whether or not you should include it as part of your wedding stationery, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Am I having a religious or traditional wedding, with many guests who are of another faith or culture?
  • Am I having a large wedding, where guests are unlikely to know the bridal party?
  • Am I having a particularly long ceremony where guests will want to be prepared to wait a while?
  • Do I have many people to thank for their contributions to our wedding day?

If you answered “Yes” to any of these questions, then I would most likely recommend providing a wedding program for your guests.

There is no “one size fits all” template for creating your wedding program but typically, the cover or header will include the date and/or names of the couple.  It may also include the location and time of the ceremony, a picture, or design element.

Next, you’ll want to outline the Order of Events for your ceremony in the order they will include.  This includes processional music, greeting, readings, prayers, exchange of vows, ring ceremony, unity candle ceremony, pronouncement of marriage, recessional music, and any other ceremony music.

You may also want to use your wedding program to explain the meaning of traditions or rituals used in your ceremony; acknowledge loved ones who are in spirit, highlight the bridal party; or ask for audience participation in certain parts of the ceremony.  Remember, you can customize your program to your desires so get creative – add a quote, throw in a fun fact! – and make it your own!

Choosing Your Wedding Officiant

While the reception is perhaps the most entertaining section of the wedding day, the ceremony is the most important.  Therefore it should be intimately reflective of the values and character of the union you are establishing through the exchange of your vows.  It’s for this reason that choosing your Officiant may be one of the most important vendors you hire to be present on your wedding day.  If you don’t already have someone who can officiate your wedding, here are some things to consider when you are choosing one:

DECIDE WHAT TYPE OF WEDDING CEREMONY YOU WANT TO HAVE.

There are 3 basic wedding ceremonies: Religious, Secular or Interfaith. Choose which of the following statements closest describes the type of faith-based wedding ceremony you should explore:

  1. My fiancé and I share a common religious background and plan to manage our household and raise out children in accordance with this particular faith.
  2. My fiancé and I are not particularly religious and we’d much rather incorporate a lot of personal elements into our wedding ceremony.
  3. My fiancé and I practice different religious backgrounds and plan to incorporate elements of both into our wedding ceremony.

If you chose statement 1, consider a religious ceremony and choose the priest, rabbi or minister from your place of worship. If you don’t regularly attend religious services, search for churches or synagogues in your area. Each will have a clergy person who performs wedding ceremonies.

If you chose statement 2, consider a secular ceremony and ask your county clerk for a list of state credentialed Justices of the Peace to contact, starting with those that live closest to the location of your ceremony.

If you chose statement 3, consider an interfaith ceremony. You might be able to find a nondenominational minister who can incorporate elements of both religions into the ceremony, or you might want to start searching for two officiants!


DECIDE THE TYPE OF VENUE THAT IS APPROPRIATE FOR YOUR CEREMONY.

Once you’ve decided on the type of ceremony you want to have you’ll need to consider your venue.  A Religious or Interfaith wedding ceremony will most traditionally take place Temple, Church or similar building of worship and you may be able to choose a minister from among its staff of clergy.  If your secular wedding ceremony leads you to an outdoor or nontraditional venue, be sure your Officiant is comfortable with conducting the ceremony outside of a formal place of worship.

RESEARCH YOUR OPTIONS.

If you are unable to select an Officiant from the roster of clergymen provided by your religious or interfaith venue, you’ll want to keep a few additional things in mind as you continue your search.  First, each state has their own marriage laws so not all Officiants are created equal. Just because someone can perform a ceremony in Washington doesn’t always mean they can perform one in Arkansas so make sure that the ordination your officiant has is legal in the state you are getting married in.  The rules for NJ, PA, CT, NY, and DE are as follows:

  • Connecticut: Any ordained or licensed clergymen, and justices of the peace.
  • Delaware: Any ordained minister, and clerks of the peace. If you have your marriage ceremony at the office of the Clerk of the Peace, there is a $20 fee for the civil marriage ceremony.
  • New Jersey: Any ordained or licensed clergymen, and justices of the peace.
  • New York: According to Section 11 of the Domestic Relations Law, an officiant must be an authorized, officially ordained member of the clergy or a public official in the State of New York such as a mayor, city clerk, deputy city clerk, appointed marriage officer, justice, or judge. In New York City, an officiant must be registered with the City of New York. Ship captains cannot perform marriage ceremonies in New York State.
  • Pennsylvania: Couples can obtain a self-uniting license. Any ordained minister, priest or rabbi of any regularly established church or congregation, Judges, Justices of Peace, and County Clerks or their appointed Deputies may perform wedding ceremonies. Mayors of cities and boroughs are also authorized to perform marriage ceremonies.

You may also consider asking a close friend or family member to Officiate your wedding ceremony but before you go this route, make sure you check the list of check the list of state marriage laws. A few states—such as California, Massachusetts, and Alaska will grant one-day Deputy Commissioner of Marriage status.

Online directories such as PartyPop.com’s Directory of Officiants , Onewed’s Vendor Search Tool and The Knot’s  Local Wedding Resources are great starting points for couples who have no idea where to begin looking for a ceremony Officiant.  Twitter is also an excellent resource and we highly recommend following our mobile wedding officant friends over at WedonWheels.

…Did you know that I am an ordained nondenominational officiant and can legally sign a marriage license.  It’s not one of the main services offered by SocialBFly but it is  the ultimate tool in my wedding emergency kit!

You may also consider asking a close friend or family member to Officiate your wedding ceremony but before you go this route, make sure you check the list of state marriage laws. A few states – such as California, Massachusetts and Alaska – will grant regular individuals one-day Deputy Commissioner of Marriage status.

INTERVIEW YOUR POSSIBILITIES. 

Get to know the officiants that you are considering so that you can make an informed decision. Conduct interviews to find the wedding Officiant who can best represent your beliefs.   During the interview, you’ll want to ask the following questions:

  • How long has s/he been performing weddings?
  • Why does s/he perform weddings?
  • What speeches or sermons does s/he plan to recite during the wedding ceremony?
  • Learn officiants’ permissions, restrictions or requirements to see if they match your ideals:
  • Will s/he require you and your fiancé to attend premarital counseling and/or regular services in order to officiate a wedding?
  • Will s/he allow you to write and recite your own wedding vows?
  • Are you permitted to incorporate songs or independent readings into the order of the ceremony?
  • Can you attend another service that the officiant s/he is conducting or see video clips of them speaking?
  • What is the fee and are there additional charges, such as travel and rehearsal attendance?
  • Is s/he available for your wedding date and time?

SEAL THE DEAL.

Once you’ve interviewed and selected the Officiant you think best fits your wedding , schedule a meeting to write down the detailed vendor agreement.  You’ll want to make sure it includes a clear breakdown of prices, cancellation policies, expected arrival times on the day of your wedding and a realistic backup plan should anything prevent them from physically carrying out the agreement.

Music Monday: Golden


Today’s #MusicMonday song selection is Golden, a traditionally romantic ballad from Chrisette’s debut album, I AM. I always think wedding processional or first dance whenever I hear this song.

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Take me back in the day when loving was pure
Love ain’t going away, love is always secure
Life’s not always perfect but love’s always forever
Lets let true love connect lets try lasting together

I’m so ready to love, I’m so ready to promise my all
I’m so ready to give ’til the day that my life is no more
I’ll be everything that this woman can possibly be
Cause I’m ready to be like the olden days when commitment was golden

Be the man of my dreams and get down on one knee, love
Say you’ll be all I need and then ask me to marry you, my love
Lets take two golden bands and lets walk down the isle, love
I’ll say I do and you’ll say I do, make a golden commitment, oh

I’m so ready to love, I’m so ready to promise my all
and I’m so ready to give ’til the day that my life is no more
I’ll be everything that this woman could possibly be, yes I will
Cause I’m ready to be like the olden days when commitment was golden

Let’s last forever (let’s last forever)
No typical American shady love
Let’s stay together (let’s stay together)
Pray God smile upon our everlasting love

I’m so ready to love, I’m so ready to promise my all
and I’m so ready to give ’til the day that my life is no more
I’ll be everything that this woman could possibly be, yes I will
Cause I’m ready to be like the olden days when commitment was golden

I’m so ready to love, I’m so ready to promise my all
and I’m so ready to give ’til the day that my life is no more
I’ll be everything that this woman could possibly be
Cause I’m ready to be like the olden days when commitment was golden

Golden
Golden
oh oh my
Golden
Golden love
Cause commitment is golden
Mmm mmm