CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT!!
Whether you are recently engaged or well into planning for your big day, it is undoubtedly an exciting time in the life of you and your fiancé and a lot will happen between “Will You Marry Me” and “I Do”. With each glimpse of your ring finger your settle more and more into the promise of forever. But, what next?
- Breathe. Deeply inhale through your nose….now exhale through your mouth….good, now you’re ready!
- Tell your parents. Give them the honor of hearing the news first.
- Tell everyone else. Before you update your relationship status or instatweet your happy news, be certain you’ve PERSONALLY announced it to everyone who should hear it from you.
- Schedule a manicure. Your hands will be the new focal point as friends and family “oooh” and “ahhh” over the new sparkly adornment so keep that weekly appointment on the calendar.
- Guesstimate your guest list. Before you even begin the venue search, nail down this magic number. Planners want to how many people you’re inviting so they can pair you with spaces (ballrooms, tents, etc.) that can accommodate head count. Banquet packages are also priced in ranges based on guest minimums, so this will help you with the next step: budgeting.
- Set a realistic budget and start saving. It’s easy to get carried away planning for the happiest day of your life, but it is never a good idea to incur exorbitant amounts of debt in order to have the wedding you’ve always dreamed of. Once you find out who’s going to help you pay for the wedding, decide on an amount that you and your Fiancé can comfortably contribute and STICK TO THAT NUMBER!
- Location is everything! Deciding where you are going to hold your ceremony and reception is a big decision that may require several venues before finding the perfect one. Creating organizational systems, such as spreadsheets to keep tabs on the venues you visit and their pros and cons, will help you stay calm along the way.
- Find inspiration. Having an idea of the type of wedding you want will prove useful in helping finalize decisions. Sign up for Pinterest to track and pin pictures that excite you. Attend bridal shows…read bridal magazines…scour the web. Inspiration is everywhere! But be careful, the Internet can be an overwhelming place. Allow yourself a certain amount of time each day to get lost in cyberspace but remain realistic about what your budget will allow.
- Relax. Between family, friends, and decisions, this may seem like a tall order but you must do your best to avoid any unnecessary stress. Planning for your wedding will be no different than planning for any other monumental life event. The truth is some days will feel completely overwhelming and when this happens, make time to getaway – get a massage, sleep in, read a (non-wedding related) book. Don’t hesitate to reset and allow time for you and Fiancé to just focus on yourselves.
- Ask for help. The average wedding can require as many as 250 decisions and demand over 150 hours of your time. With this in mind, it is important to consider whether you can plan the entire wedding by yourself (or with limited help)? If you’re the type of person who’d rather not stress over the details, you may want to consider hiring a wedding planner. You may find there are some areas of your wedding where you require some planning assistance—negotiating with bakers and caterers for the best prices, finding the ideal venue, organizing party favors? If those are tasks you don’t want to tackle alone and don’t have the assistance of your mom or bridesmaids, you definitely want hire a wedding planner. Keep in mind that a wedding coordinator will cost money, so make sure the option to hire one comfortably fits into your budget before you give it consideration.
If you’ve decided that a planner is necessary, your decision to place someone in charge of pulling all of the elements and details together on your wedding day is a good one. After all, you’re the bride and you should be carrying a bouquet, not a clipboard!
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If there’s one thing we love, it’s an engagement. And if you’ve been a reader of Behind the Veil, Beyond the Vows for any length of time, you also know that we love a good celebrity love story. And we were thrilled to learn that our 2nd favorite member of the Destiny’s Child dynasty, Letoya Luckett, is engaged.
She took to Instagram to show off her gorgeous oval rock and publicly announce her engagement to Dallas entrepreneur Tommicus Walker in a post that read
“I said , ” Yes yeeeesssss” on his Burfday!! #issaengagement #GodShowedout #HesaGoodManSavanah #LoveWins #8/16/17.”
And she looks over the moon with happiness..not to mention, how CUTE he is…proving, once again, love does really win!
FrutaPOP is a small-batch, hand-crafted ice pop company, specializing in natural fruit and juice ice pops, coffee ice pops and alcohol infused ice pops better known as Poptails.
FrutaPOP offers seasonal flavors, making the POP a year-round treat and for the summer their featuring six tantalizing flavors that we are patiently waiting a chance to try, including Coconut Rosé Sangria POPs made with fresh blueberries and strawberries; Watermelon Mint Lemonade POPs made with premium vodka; Sparkling Prosecco POPs in mango mimosa and passion fruit; Tropical POPs in rum punch and pina colada; Red or White Coconut Sangria POPs made with top shelf alcohol, wine produced in New York State and organic fruit; and Passion Fruit Pink Champagne POPs which we can totally see as a champagne toast alternative for our summer brides.
At approximately $60 for a dozen, each pop costs about $10 each once you factor in the $35.00 flat-rate shipping fee. All of the flavors are 5% alcohol by volume – which means you must be at least 21 years of age to enjoy them – and available in packs of 12, 24 and 48. It also looks like you can mix and match your order so you can try all of them.
We haven’t yet had a chance to taste test these tasty treats but we’re hoping to do so soon and even have plans for a future event so stay tuned. In the meantime, stop by FrutaPOP for a full list of their healthy frozen dessert options and to place an order for your upcoming event
Shredding for the wedding? Well, we’ve come across what is arguably THE BEST online party…we mean, workout to get you and the girls motivated to fit in those dresses.
Glow by PopSugar recently posted the workout video to their Facebook page and with exercises like the ‘Confetti Candy Squat Drops’, ‘Stripper Snake’ and ‘Booty-Up Push Ups’ (also known as ‘How I Got My Ring’) coupled with the awesome instructor, you’ll be in shape in no time – we’re just mad he’s not teaching a class in the NYC area.
So booty’s up ladies and get ready to WERK it, twirk it and drop it like it’s hot!!
I was recently asked a question that I think a lot of people may have had confusion over. Recall, if you will, an invitation that you’ve received for a wedding or other formal event. Chances are it opened with the line “request the honor of your presence” or “request the pleasure of your company” as part of the wording. Believe it or not these phrases actually have etiquette guidelines on when they can each be used and are not entirely interchangeable.
The phrase “…the honor of your presence…” is reserved for wedding ceremonies taking place in a house of worship, be it a church, temple, mosque, synagogue or another religious institution.
Meanwhile the phrase “…the pleasure of your company…” is used to invite guests to a wedding ceremony taking place anywhere else. Examples of this would include a country club, resort garden area, the beach, etc.
This rule does not take into consideration a religious ceremony, but rather the location. So if you have a Jewish ceremony, complete with a Chuppah, at a resort, you would still request the pleasure of your guests company.
If you want to stick with tradition in this area though, then each has an appropriate and specific use.
Is this etiquette rule breakable without being totally faux pas? I say, yes! Only the trained eye will notice that you used “…the honor of your presence…” to invite them to your beach front wedding. After all, God is everywhere and one could argue that the beach front is just as sacred as the Chapel. I personally believe that God is not limited to a building and that many things can be sacred, so I would have no problem using “the honor of your presence” to invite people to an outdoor wedding.
Do you have wedding questions that you need answers to? Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Although I remember hearing about this story a few years ago, it can still be filed under: deplorable! The young lady, who I think we can appropriately label as the victim, recalled a story of attending a wedding, and not too long after receiving a message from the Bride expressing her dissatisfaction with the $100 wedding gift she received from she and her date. You can read the message for yourself below, but we must warn you: Your blood WILL boil.
“Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike’s and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn’t expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you’ll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything.”
Now, I’m not sure if the Bride was aware but the young lady whom she is berating had recently graduate, was only working part-time and didn’t know the couple very well. Regardless, I think it goes without saying that this is a most inappropriate response to any gift.
But….just in case anyone reads this that is unsure, let me take this moment to clarify: there is no rule that states that a guest must give a gift to a party to which they are invited or what they should give. No, not even a wedding. And as the recipient, it is just poor etiquette to question the amount of the gift that is given and you should NEVER rely on gifts to pay off the balance for your wedding vendors.
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Okay, here’s a concept that we love -affordable payment plans for flights. Also known as Airfordable.
Airfordable is an online payment plan that can be used for your airline tickets. It allows you to secure your tickets with a deposit upfront and pay the remaining balance in bi-weekly recurring payments before your departure date.
While they only accept multi-leg and round trips at this time, it allows for up to 7 travelers on one booking/payment plan (if you need more than 7, you can contact them), you can have a maximum of 5 bookings at a time and you can still use your frequent flyer number.
Airfordable charges a one-time fee on the price of the ticket that varies between 10% and 20% and automatically deducts each payment on your scheduled dates so there’s no need for any action on your end.
It’s an option for those low on cash or credit, as well as those wanting to lock in a fare. The company has future plans to expand into layaway payments for vacation packages and hotels. They also are working on a custom travel search platform so users don’t have to upload their own travel screenshots. Learn more at http://www.airfordable.com.